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I’ve been listening to the wise radio show hosts over at Hay House Radio for the past couple years now.  A couple of things they all seems to agree on are:

1.  Remove yorself from any negative / toxic people, places and things.

2.  Trust your instinct.  Your “inner alarm” will go off if you are where you should not be.

My “inner alarm” has been buzzing for the past year or so and I’ve simply been hitting the snooze button.  But…as we all know…the snooze button just prolongs the inevitable and doesn’t get rid of the alarm or what we need to do once we pay attention to the alarm.

Now that I’ve identified a toxic situation and removed myself from it, I feel like a butterfly that’s been stuck in a cocoon for a long, long time.  I’m finally ready to FLY!!!  I will fly far above this mess and soar with grace just like a beautiful butterfly is meant to do.

I am FREE to soar!!!         

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When we choose to get involved with someone on a personal or business level, we have a certain line that we won’t cross.  For example, if my husband were to ever cheat on me, we would be done.  That’s something I could not put up with or get over.  Now, there are plenty of people who have stayed with a spouse or partner that cheated.  My personal line is – I won’t do that.  It doesn’t make those who have done it (stayed with them) wrong.  It just means that I, PERSONALLY, wouldn’t.

If you’ve read my last couple posts, you may have figured out that I’m having personal integrity issues involving a mentor of mine.  This person has crossed a line that I have drawn and I can’t continue to work with him.  This is someone who has helped me through many tough times.  He has been a personal friend, business mentor and I have learned a lot from him.  Therein lies the problem.  I’ve learned from this person that certain things are not OK in MLM.

When you are in the MLM / Network Marketing profession, you will encounter greed and ego.  It’s the nature of the business.  When people get a taste of success and recognition, it goes to their heads.  They want more.  More recognition, more success, more accolades, more money.  That is understandable.  I know it’s out there.  I know it happens A LOT!!  I actually don’t even blame people for wanting it.  It’s human nature.

HOWEVER, when someone preaches to thousands that these things are WRONG, and then does them anyway, well…that’s a personal line that I can’t cross.  I can never work with this person again.  EVER!!  A line has been crossed.  He has done the very things that HE teaches are WRONG.  You can’t teach one thing and live another.  This would be like a preacher committing murder or a parent abusing their child.  Do these things happen?  ABSOLUTELY.  Do I have to condone them?  ABSOLUTELY NOT!!

I’ve drawn my line.  I will not cross it.  I will not allow someone who exhibits this behavior in MY life.  This is my personal line.  It may not be yours.

So…where do I go from here?  I’m not really sure.  What I do know is that I have thought long and hard and agonized over my decision.   I’ve been researching my options and am fairly confident that I’m going to continue in MLM, just not with the company/team I’m on.  I have a firm belief in MLM.  That has not waned.  I got bit by the MLM bug when I was 18 years old and always loved the concept of leveraging the efforts of myself and others instead of doing it all myself.  I have made some wonderful friends over the past three and a half years or so and it’s been an awesome run.  I began masterminding with a couple of these great people once I realized what was going on and will probably be taking a new direction very soon.  I’ll keep you posted.

I have not made any concrete decisions other than this is the line I’ve drawn (based on the teaching of my mentor) and will not cross it.  He did something that went against everything he teaches.  I do believe this person is very smart and knows what he is talking about.  I just think his ego got the best of him.  In his words “a fish rots from the head”.   That is SO true!!

What do you do when a mentor (whom you looked up to) goes against everything they have taught you?  Do you still look up to that person?  Is there any way possible that you can trust that person again?

When someone puts themselves on a pedestal and professes to “know it all”, they (in my opinion) better be ready to live up to what they teach or they will lose respect in a HUGE way as soon as they go against their teaching.  If you put yourself in a position to be coach, mentor, trusted advisor and expert, you have a standard to uphold.  People expect that you will “practice what you preach”.

In MLM, it’s easy for greed and ego to take over after you’ve achieved a certain level of status.  This is why you need to have an open mind when choosing an MLM mentor.  Network marketing breeds egomaniacs.  If you are going to make it big in network marketing as well as being an MLM trainer, you must be able to keep your ego in check.  You can NOT teach one thing and do another.

Who are you learning from?  Do you REALLY know your mentor, coach, teacher?

What would you do if you found out that your mentor was doing the very things that he or she has taught you are unethical?

Many companies make it really easy for unethical behavior to occur.  They allow changes to be made to the organizational structure.  One thing to look at is your upline view.  You should be able to see a view of your three or four upline leaders.  In any company, if it is possible to “gift” someone a pre-built downline, it’s also possible for deal making to happen.

There has been a lot of talk among the network marketing community about this person or that person buying a pre-built organization or being given a pre-built organization.  One thing to be aware of is who is in your upline.  For example, if someone joined the company after you did, and they are suddenly in YOUR upline, you know that a deal was made and this person was either sold or given a downline.  This is HIGHLY unethical behavior.

The reason most “leaders” get away with it is because very few people ever look at their upline view.  Once you join, you see who is in your upline support team and you rarely look upline again.  This makes it easy for the unethical scammers out there to take advantage of you.

Before you read further, go to your company back office and look upline.  Then come back here and finish reading.

What did you find?  Does the upline view show you the join dates of those in your upline?  Did all of your upline team members join the company before you did?  If someone is there that joined after you, you need to ask yourself how this happened.  You must ask who gave or sold them their pre-built downline.  You must ask yourself “Is this a company/team that I want to be affiliated with?”

For your free coaching session, email coachingsession at roxannegreen dot com and I will be happy to help you figure out what to do from here.

People are getting laid off every day. Losing jobs or getting hours cut seems to be the topic no matter what social function you attend. If you lose your job or get your hours cut, what’s your “Plan B”?  What do you have in place so the result of either of these events won’t be total devastation?

Let me ask you this – where does your “free time” go? If you’re working, you are probably working an 8 hour day. Let’s assume you have a travel time of 1 hour round trip to work (1/2 hour each way) so your job takes 9 hours of your day – 10 if you have an hour unpaid lunch, so let’s assume 10 for the sake of argument.

There are 24 hours in a day. 8 are spent sleeping and 10 are spent on your job. That leaves 6 hours.  Now, let’s say you spend 1 hour per day on dinner and 1 hour per day on personal care.  That leaves 4 hours.  Maybe you spend 2 hours per day with your family.

There are 2 hours EVERY DAY that you can spend building an additional income from home.  2 hours per day, 6 days per week is 12 hours per week.

This is assuming that you take one whole day per week to do what you want to do.  What do you do with your extra 12 hours per week?  Do you spend it in front of the TV or playing video games?  Maybe you spend it in a bar or socializing with friends.  Are you willing to give up part of that time each week to build a business from home?  You don’t even need to use the entire 12 extra hours per week.  If you can agree to give up just 4 or 5 of those hours, you can find creative ways to earn an extra income from home.   Many people sell things on ebay, become virtual assistants, become at home customer service reps, and any number of other things to help bring in extra income.

How about it? Do you want to “recession proof” your life?

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